Push someone away too much and you’re an ‘asshole’ or a ‘bitch’.Pull someone in too much and you’re ‘needy’ or ‘suffocating’.Of course, we know attraction is created by a series of psychological triggers (and more importantly, by triggering negative associations) however push / pull is often seen in nearly every successful attraction method because it imbues you with a sense of exclusivity and power whilst still keeping the other party interested by hinting at your interest in them.In short, it makes people chase you by making you seem hard to get but not totally unachievable and is often used to generate attraction in people mentally (if they visually may not have shown an interest in you initially).In 1997 Mystery replies to someone else’s post on a seduction community Internet forum, so this is the first time he actually appears on the PUA scene.As he would admit, he was a “late bloomer” himself, spending his time playing Dungeons and Dragons until his twenties, having absolutely no success with women.It helped create the TV show The Pickup Artist, for which Nick Savoy acted as a consultant, on the VH1 network.
He was performing magic tricks at children’s birthday parties, working full-time as a magician.[fimage] Erik James Horovat-Markovic, alias Mystery, born September 24th 1971, is one of the most influential people in the sub-culture of the pickup artists or the “seduction community”.He is one of the pickup artists who were featured in Neil Strauss’s bestseller “The Game”.Is love just one trick, technique, or pick-up line away? Any technique, tactic, or dating strategy is not a fool-proof, never-fail, approach. However, "game", "seduction", "rules" and other approaches can make someone more likely to like you, love you, and want to take you home. This topic was explored by a recent article by Oesch and Miklousic (2012) in the journal of Evolutionary Psychology.When they work, they do so by tapping into some very basic, evolutionary and psychological mechanisms. In the article, the two authors describe the parallels between pick-up artist seduction tactics and what evolutionary psychology theory says about human courtship.